Taking my route

I feel like im revisiting a the previous post 'Huh?' .

But its been some months since that situation, but it seems like i've been in that same situation still, till recently. Its my fault though. I tried the silent route...figuring things would figure themselves out...tryn to avoid confrontation..but thats not the way to do things i guess. Its kinda interesting cuz when things are sorta public, say Twitter....its never really end to it. Even when you agree to just keep things to your selves.

Its always multiple sides to stories...

And some folks are more friends to others...so things probably are believed more when your peeps got something to say, verses someone you really don't know, or know that well. I got a couple folks on twitter..thats really really cool peeps....but i'd never want then to just believe me because we cool..

I've never been the one to dog someone...blame someone else for why things didn't happen. but if it isn't my fault..it just isn't. I've been called emotionally unavailable...and other random shit..but really...we make ourselves available to what we want to.

All in all...it didn't work.

I'm not making myself out to be a victim..hell, its no victims...in my opinion. When things don't workout, you SUPPOSE to move on.  Its a sad case when you put yourself out there...petitioning the world like you been done wrong...folks comforting you.. looking at the other person wrong like they stabbed you in the neck...when thats really not the case.

I don't look for attention on twitter. I don't tell stories for folks to be on my side. Its just not me. But to those who do...so be it. Life goes on.

No..really....life goes on. really.

No for real...it does.



OLSW

Random: Social Network Rant

Lately, Facebook...mostly Twitter...been getting on my nerves. 


So, i just decided to note a couple things that I've noticed in my time on twitter/facebook. 


Its no shots taken...i mean..only bit dogs bark right? 


Anyhow...here we go: 




- Why when someone is out of line.. Or not to there liking, its always said "sit ya ass down".. Just seem like an over used term to me.. We get it, you don't like them.

- I'm not that big on heels on women...ok, I'm not that big on HEARING about it.  They aiight, its not a must for me. still cool though.

- Don't get me wrong, I appreciate expression..esp from women.. But I don't have to hear about natural hair ALL the the time. There, I said it.

- Long ass names on facebook...why? I mean, my twit name is long.. But who cares, but your middle name on FB is 'laughinAtYouHoes'.. :/

- Twitter seems to be the place for strong opinions. Hey, its cool. But you can't make anyone like your opinion. Speak ya peace and be gone.

- If someone sends me a random drink..food item... Or mafia hit one mo gin...

- Ats a lot of Rev runs on FB. Quoting shit like they made it. At least give credit.

- And even that gets old. What do YOU think... Post that.

- Subliminal...do y'all even know what that mean!? What y'all do on twitter isn't subliminal.. At all. Y'all post obvious thoughts without an addressee. That's not subliminal, at all. So STOP saying it.

- I bitched about them never sending me this sociascope app.. Now that I got it, really not that impressed. Sigh...

- I think its an easy choice if you don't like what someone post constantly on twitter.. Just unfollow. I don't see what the big deal is.

- Using explanation marks (!!!) At the end of every tweet isn't cool. You arnt that excited all the time!!!!!

- Attention seekers...i mean damn...






OLSW

The Playas Club..

When i was 19, i used to go over to Canada to of course drink, and to check out the strip clubs. Since i wasn't old enough to do it here legally here, Me and my friends were ALWAYS in Canada. I really wasn't that into the strip club, but my friends were, so i went. 


It was ok. 


I mean, i guess i don't enjoy it like most folks that go the strip clubs. 


Fast forward 10 years plus, and I've been to the strip club about 4 times since last 2 month. 


Why? Well, one was my boys taking me for my birthday. The other times..just hanging with my boys. I really don't spend money when i go, my boy pays. So for a few drinks...some laughs and random tig o bitties..why not. And i STILL  just think its over rated. But i did have some interesting observations from the times i been that wanted to share. 




- I see why dudes like the place. They get all this attention from the dancers. Although its all about the money...i see some silly, low self esteem dude thinking that the dancer really likes him. 


- That place is the biggest waste of money that i know of. When i went for my birthday, my boy spend like 300 bucks ..on dances and drinks. NUTS. 


- Dancers really don't like when you turn then down for a dance. I couldn't even watch basketball with out getting harassed. damn bitcho...i really don't wanna smell like badussy. 


- Its a guy there...his SOLE job is to clean off the poles and stage. That's it. Oh, and gather the dancers 'tips'. 


- Some of the dancers aren't even professional...chick come over trying to get a dance...and texting on her phone. i mean...its STILL your job. 


- I did get dances...this one time...chick was braiding her hair while she danced on me. One French braid. Multitasking at its finest. 


- Never really understood throwing money in the air. 


- All dancers arnt there to pay for college. Some just dance, that's all. 


- They serve food. Mm not sure if i wanna have my chicken dinners ruined by random flying juices. 




So....would i go again?...maybe so. Will i ever understand the fondness of it? nope. 






OLSW

excuses, social networks, and other random mess

So i've come to one conclusion....

I can NOT promise that ima be a consistent blogger.

It's not in me.


With that said, WADUPDOE!!

It seems that i spend alot of time on twitter. Its seem to be the short hand version of blogging. I know 140 characters isnt really enough to tell a story...or totally get a point across...but its become addicting. I get up in the am, before brushing my teeth, and im checking my timeline (dont act like im the only one that does it). But as addicted as I am...im really feeling like its not really for me.

Twitter seems to be the place where people want to make ALL their opinions fact. Everything is the BEST EVER..or the worst ever. It no middle grown it seems like. People who got sense clown the folks that dont. Folks thats been 'hated on' talk about the 'haters'. Trending topic are the worse.

And SEX!!!!
OMMFG!!!!

Niggas talk about sex damn near all day everyday. As much as they talk about it, you'd think they'd be done got some by now. It used to be at night 'twitter after dark'...which was so so. I'd just go to sleep. But now, these fools be on that shit all day. Just annoying.

Thats how this group is on my blackberry messenger. Bless they hearts....but they talk about sex all the damn time too. I mean, one time, I tried to interject off the subject, and they didnt even see it, lol.

And Facebook...Its just a bunch of folks that wanna make long ass stats... useless..


Its been a lil more than a month since my 30th birthday. I dont feel old. I did find what i though is a grey hair....ugh. Its cool though, because im gonna have it cut all off soon. No date though...cuz i been called out on it multiple times for it. But soon enough, I'll have it cut.

In the next couple months, Im gonna be composing my 5 year plan. I gotta make my 30's the best decade. So will be making some real plans that i can make work for me.


I've come to the conclusion that I am a true geek. Seems like i been fixing computers, troubleshooting networks...ridding viruses for folks...lol. So ima see how this can benefit me...aka, get paid.


Anyhow...until next time (when ever that is, lol)

OLSW

Favorites

So one day I was thinking of the favorites I have. 

Then thought, 'Hey, why not tell yall!!' 

Heres just a couple of them. 

Phone

Comedy

Actor

Childhood sport 

Candy

Dranky drank

Hat

Old school car 

Food to cook

I wanted to make this post longer, but i was tired of looking for pictures, lol .





OLSW

T minus....

This month is going fast already.

I know this is my second post related to my birthday...but i cant believe I'm turning 30!!

So far, I don't know what I'm doing on my actual birthday, but that Friday I'm having a joint birthday party with my aunt and a cousin at this bar/club place. should be fun. My aunt is about 7or 8 years older than me...and be acting like she 25. Really gets on my nerves. Her birthday is 3 days after mines, and it seems like every year she is trying to have a party with me. I mean, I know I'm cool an all...  ( lol ) . But this year, she actually had a great idea for a party, so i was down with it. I'm pretty sure after next week...i"ll be celebrating my bday damn near every day till the end of the month.

Anyhow, this was a lame post...but i had to post something..lol.

Real post coming soon.


OLSW

Decrease to Increase

Meet Thomas. We'll call him 'Tom' for short.


Tom is an African American, mid-twenties entrepreneur.


His product: Crabcakes.


This ninja was the master chef at making them . He simply perfected these crabcakes.  He came up with a bomb recipe, that couldnt be replicated. He started, just making them at the crib, testing them on family and friends. Everyone who had them thought that he should go in business. So he did, started off small, and things started to work out well for him. Tom wanted to expand and his business, so he sought out a building, so he could cook, and sell his crabcakes in.


Tom was doing well at the crabcake business, but he lacked the funds to expand the business like he wanted to. So Tom had an idea to get some investers for his business.Tom didn't discriminate on who he asked either. He prepared a pretty good business plan. Its really outlined the contributions he wanted, and layed out what exactly he was doing with the crabcake business. He set a high amount for the minumum donations, because he was all about getting that money. As investors funds came in, Tom was able to get that building that he so wanted.


Business is going well, and things are progressively moving the way he wanted to. Tom really feels he's the shit, with good reason. He doing good, business is booming, and got the drive to succeed my any means necessary. Now, it to a point where we wants more to know about his business, so Tom decides to shoot a commercial . This is a BIG move. He does some research, noting the cost involved in a commercial showing in the city, outside of the city, ect. Tom see that a great percentage of the rural area is Korean. Since he feels that Korean men seem to want his crabcakes more, he wants this commercial to cater to them. Tom didn't feel his own people would want his crabcakes .So in the casting for the commercial, he sets out to have the lead actor, specifically be a Korean man. Now, being a black owned business man..you think that he wants to represent his background, things like that...not the case. Commercial is made. He cast a Korean Lead, and even a Korean cook!!!





I titled this post 'Decrease to Increase' because I understand that its sacrifice involved in most everything. I know you have yo give a little, to get a little....give a lot, to get a lot. I get that. But, to not even acknowledge who you are, hide yourself for the sake of being successful, is just awful . the term 'Sell Out' seemed to fit. Being that African Americans have been slighted so much in our history, you'd think that a being an African American MALE...Tom would be proud of his background. Im disappointed in people like that, and unfortunately, I wont support them .



OLSW

Huh??

So I had this grand blog planned.

Twitter had sparked the writer in me on what I saw as some bullshit, and i wanted to express myself on that matter, so what better place right?? I was done talking to that person on that issue, and needed a place to vent on that subject.

WELL....that's not gonna happen. At least not on this post. I'll have that one for Friday i promise think.

I have another story of sorts that i been keeping in, but i think i should vent on it as well. Its like gas, better to blow that shit out.....

*John Coltrane 'My Favorite Things' Live on repeat*


I was traveling down a new road...It really had interested me, was really feeling it at the time.
Some reservations...but who doesn't have them when something is new. At some point of this path, I saw things i didn't care for. And I wondered, are these things i can live with? Are these things that are compromises? or things I'm just tryn to settle/deal with. This trip had started to move much faster that i had wanted it to go. I decided that i should end this trip. much before things got difficult. so i thought.
Did i do the right thing? Absolutely. Any longer would have brought potential hatred and strong emotional ties. But its not looked at as me doing something right, in others eyes.Its looked as me being irresponsible in giving false hopes and empty expectations. I'm the bad guy...I'm screwing people over..yeah, its my fault.....ummm yeah...how bout not.

I thought, being an adult, making adult decisions..was the RIGHT thing to do.the phrase 'right thing to do' is very relative so I've learned. I could of handled it so much differently.Been an asshole and all, but i didn't. I'm not heartless.  I have thick skin...sometimes too thick, so I'll be aiigh.

Not even sure how to end this post.


I'll try...... THE END.


OLSW

Can Singles Give Good Relationship Advice?

Yes and no.

For me, yes....sorta. I've been single most of my adulthood. But, not being in one can really shed some light on what I may be doing wrong, or what others are doing wrong.

Things I do know.

-Relationships take both parties giving 100% effort.

-Compromise is necessary in every relationship.

-Communication is key to sustaining a great relationship

-Love will get you there, but won't keep you there.

Now, I say no as well just cuz..well, shit.. If I had all the answers, I'd be a fool to still be single.

Anyhow, what's your thoughts?

OLSW

B.I.G.

Cool ass mixtape. It plays the song he sampled, then the original. check it out.


http://www.megaupload.com/?d=069IRDPH


OLSW 

Mobile Blogging (random)

Happy friday!!!

-I'm testing to see how this email blogging really works. If it comes out good, ima probably blog from my phone more than the pc.

-Day 2 without Twitter. I can say, my phone battery life is soooooooo much better.

-I'm looking at a pretty tamed weekend. Hanging out with the R.O.C this evening and just chilling around the house the rest of the weekend.

-Anybody see the shootout with Carmelo and Lebron?? It made basketball look fun again. Denver pulled it out! #tigerwoodsfistpump

-I REALLY need to start back working out. My plan is for Monday. Hitting it hard so I can feel great for my birthday (3/24). Got keep the man boobs away for the dirty 30.

-Anyways, short and sweet for today's post. Ima post some better ones next week, I'll think through them a bit more. Have a great weekend folks.

OLSW

I'm not ready..

I'm not ready.


I turn 30 next month. I'm not ready for it. Its on of those things where i thought I'd have so much more accomplished by the time i hit 30. Most my friends and fam my age and younger have kids, some married, things like that. Most have established careers..just things that I thought I'd have. 2009 was a total strain on my life, and i think it set me back a couple years.

The 30's also present a decade where I HAVE to make it the best decade in my life. By best, i mean being productive, establishing my future. If i fail the 30's, I'm pretty sure i can hang it up on life. That may sound harsh, but I'm just being realistic. Its so much i want, and gonna have to get it in these next 10 years.

I know I should have had a wife by now. It isn't that easy, lol. I've been through my small share of relationships, friends with benefits, almost girlfriends...and to date, haven't got it quite right. I've come to the conclusion, that I'm very much sane. I just need to find the same in a woman. Now, this isn't a knock to women as a whole, just my experience. I'll figure that out, in due time.

I'm pretty confident things will work out for me. I have to work through a lot of things, but greatness will happen. I have great great circle of family and friends that wont let me fail. I hope to keep you all updated as things happen.



OLSW

For real for real...

Ok.


I've abandoned my blog long enough.


Im back on here. I miss it.


Im actually giving up Twitter for awhile. Its has become boring, and im just irritated with some of the things that been going on. I havent even been reading blogs like i used to. So......I just decided to take a break from twitter, work on my blog, and catch up on readings on other things.

I mean it this time...i'll be here....


For real for real. lol



OLSW

Facebook Short Story

I hate facebook party invites.

Typically, I try not to just flat out say im not coming, i just dont respond. They event will pass and no harm, no foul, and I didnt event have to respond.

But lately, i been having a random case of OCD, needing to clear the notifications i see when im on facebook. So i get a party invite from a dude that i know through another friend....truly a "facebook friend". We aint even cool like that. I dealt with him because of the mutual friend we have...but hell, i dont even talk to the mutal friend like that anymore.

I decline the invite. 1, we not even cool like that. We have totally different circles, and i'd rather not get caught up in any foolishness he got going.The dude middle name on facebook is "Nodirtygirlz"..thats about as bad as having "delicious" as a nickname. 2, i actually have plans on that day. So even if I did hang with the dude like that, I still had things going on previously.

So, this idoit ass nigga decides to write on my fb wall today. It said:

"daaaaaaayum i see you try to do sm fun Chicago stuff in the "D" and ppl don't support......WACK!! "

Im automatically pissed. Why the fuck you wanna write this crap on my wall?? I really wanted to just go ape shit on the dude. But i kept it cool, but i did respond. I said: 

"Well, if i have plans already...ima do that . Not that i felt the need to explain myself, but since you attemped to put me on blast on my wall.."

 I'd hope for his sake, he wouldnt respond with some bull. Today isnt the say for that..tomorrow isnt looking good either. 

OLSW

I can smell 2010...

Hi,


My name is Otis..


And im a former blogger...


*crowd speaks*


"HIIII OTIS"


So...I havent done this thing called blogging in such along time.

At some point, i lost the drive that i had to even blog. It wasnt in me anymore. Sure, i had thoughts, and
things i wanted to talk about. But i just didnt feel the need to blog about them. Somethings i felt was too
personal. Others, well..maybe just too lazy to put into words. And then, with Twitter...guess i just been on there all too much.

But i been getting the itch to blog. Twitter doesnt allow me to get all i want out with the character limit. Im not the most wordy person, but i do need a lil longer runway to free my thoughts. plus, its just some folks on there that get on my nerves with there one sided views..just dont understand folks. Hell, i unfollowed someone today.

My life in 2009 been one to ball up and toss in the fire. It had more highlights at a given point, then got shot to hell. I been wondering who the hell did i piss off, for stuff to get this bad.


Anyhow, im hoping to stay with my blogging. Im probably gonna try doing it from my phone, which should be no problem.


OLSW

But it started Sunday...

I've had enough...


I've gotten tired of folks telling me that :

" You be eating good"  or wanna look at my belly...or wanna say that my face filling out.


So yesterday was the start of my new workout-eating betting plan . I got up in the am and did 7miles on my bike and some jump roping...that WORE me out.

I passed out soon as i got back home...


The thing is, this is all for me. Im not doing this for the masses, but the masses really got me motivated to get on the ball with things.


I feel really motivated, although its just day 2.


Things in my life been stir crazy, i might although i probably wont blog about it at some point. But right now, im just weathering the storm. Its been :

humbling

embarrassing (and no, i wasnt soliciting prostitutes either, LOL)

stressful


All in all, im built for this. Nothing is easy. Im just looking for the pot of gold at the end of the rainbow.


OLSW

 

MOS DEFinitively

So heres a interview with Mos Def on hows the "best" in rap should do it...

Horse and Carraige...

First, Let me just say that im thrilled to have a job!!!



Now that i have gotten that out the way....


In mid July, my job is sending me for schooling for 2 MONTHS...

Now, this would be pretty grand to be going to school and can come home everynight..Instead,
Im being sent to Woo.ster, OH. Now, until i started working here almost 2 years ago, i had never even
heard of the place.

There is NOTHING there....at all. I heard that the hangout spot was a Buffalo Wild Wings...


Also heard that its a big Amish population there. And that they really have horse pulled carriages ....

Infact, the Wal-Mart has parking for the folks that have there carraiges...


Again, im happy to have a job. I just look forard to summers in the D. Its nothing like summers here. I love it.


I suffered through all the snow...only to have to NOT be here...

Anyhow, back to work.


OLSW

Summer of Movies..

I cant recall  a time like this ever where they were soooo many movies in one summer
that i wanted to see. Here goes:

The Hangover  (which i saw this weekend and was REALLY funny!!)

Up

Bruno

Transfomers 

Orphan

The Final Destination 

G.I. Joe 

The Taking of Pelham 1 2 3 

Night at the Museum: Battle of the Smithsonian

The Goods: Live Hard, Sell Hard

Thats my list for now...what about you??

OLSW

Tryn again...

So I'm hoping that through emailing posts from my blackberry, I'll post more.

I think blogger knows that twitter and facebook taking his shine away, lol. So making it easier for folks to blog is just right up my alley.

The last 2 months have been a little better than hell, and I'm gonna blog about it soon.

Anyhow, just want to get to Labor day... I know that's the end of summer.. But that's just how I'm feeling.

Details to come

OLSW